Recently, I got the following “report” from a long time client who — after creating success in her “industry of origin” has made a very profitable transition into the role of consulting. Here’s what she said,
“….Everything you have been telling me for months just clicked.I felt that moment of confidence, of standing on my own, of knowing clearly what I want, what I will create for myself and my business, and the only road I have to travel is the one I’ve been called to and I can do it my way not how others percieve it to be done. It’s kind of like that moment that all the noise fades away and you feel the sunrise within you.”
Now, this report is infinitely better than one that says, “I can’t move forward another day because I’m so paralyzed with fear and insecurity.” lol…. But I don’t need to hear that something “happened” to make them feel confident. I don’t need my clients to FEEL confident. I need them to consistently take action REGARDLESS of their “emotional temperature” … regardless of how they FEEL in any particular moment.
I need them to… and I need to MASTER their/my emotions in such a way that they/I have dominion over them. I need them to be able to leap even when they/I feel crummy. Like a “method actor” who BRINGS FORTH EMOTIONS to be more convincing on stage, the most successful entrepreneurs learn how to dismiss emotions that don’t serve them and how to CALL FORTH emotions like confidence.
In case you were wondering, here is my response to my dear, dear client…. who gave me permission to share this. =) I hope we ALL begin to deliberately craft a confidence muscle. If you’re willing to DECLARE that you’re willing to BE confident today — and every day — rather than FEEL confident, say so below in a comment. AND, want some assistance? Visit my friend Wendy over at www.courage2confidence.com. You’ll be in great hands there!
I’m so glad to hear this. It’s great when our confidence shows up and makes us feel GREAT about moving forward. It’s certainly preferable to feel this way ALL THE TIME. But, let me encourage you with some negativity. You WON’T feel confident and clear EVERY TIME you need to take action in your business. So, don’t expect to. The KEY is building a confidence MUSCLE. Something you can FLEX any time you need to. An INNER confidence that you can “call forth” even when you’re feeling crummy.In this paragraph you wrote above, confidence is an emotion and emotions are fleeting. So, REMEMBER this feeling. Journal about it. When you’re “feeling” confident, journal about all the EVIDENCE you believe that supports WHY you should be so confident. and keep this journal entry handy. You’ll need it again. The next time you begin believing you’re “not enough” in any way, take out your confidence journal entries.The REAL goal is to be able to “call forth” a feeling of confidence even when you’re feeling crummy. Let’s make this our goal. Email me the next time you’re feeling crummy, so we can put this plan into action. =)
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Quieting that ‘monkey brain’ or inner critic can be tricky and robs ALL of us of the confidence and joy we seek. Michelle is right, calling forth another way, another thought, another perspective is the key to moving forward. We can also step back, look at it from another angle and find some gratitude. I have found that gratitude is the game changer for managing any issue – finding the good (look for it b/c it’s there) and focusing on this is the key. We have worries, stress and concerns and they come and go but what we focus on expands – looking for this and riding the wave of good energy helps shuffle us along:)))))
Thanks so much Kim! I appreciate you adding to this conversation — and bringing so much to the table! =)