Ummmm… is it POSSIBLE you’re actually BEING an imposter? Is it POSSIBLE that you’re actually speaking and showing up as a fraud?Because I have never once felt like an imposter. I have been TEMPTED to show up as an imposter. I have been TEMPTED to gloss up, and professional-up, and walk and talk like the other “legit” women who talked secretly about me behind my back, all he while pretending they didn’t know who I was.
“Who? Oh HER?”
Where are THEY now?
I assure you, they are STILL lost in obscurity.
STILL chasing the rules, dotting their i’s, and talking smack about women who REFUSE to bow to the industry establishment, who make their OWN way, who refuse to pay to play in ANY realm…
“She’s so REGIONAL,” they’d say. 
I wonder, was it my accent or my boots? Was it my JEANS? lol… “She needs to cut that hair.” Hmmmm… “She’ll be fine, but needs a bit more polish.”
I wonder, was it my accent or my boots? Was it my JEANS? lol… “She needs to cut that hair.” Hmmmm… “She’ll be fine, but needs a bit more polish.”I literally laugh at this now, but HONESTLY… I considered playing the part for a bit. I rationalized this consideration as something I might should be WiLLING to do, you know to “pay my dues.” Plus, maybe then I’d get the invites to the “secret masterminds” that they’d talk about in front of me but never open the doors for. Maybe…
But then, my soul just revolted. It wasn’t that I didn’t know how. I DID go to finishing school, after all. (Sorry Mom, it didn’t take!) I HAVE had short hair. I DO know where to buy the proper suits and damn-it I can EVEN put together a power point presentation. AND I was an actress… baby. (A fairly decent one too.) I KNEW I could be like them.
I could fake it, add the polish and suit up BUT TO WHAT END????
I knew I was born to stand out. I have NEVER been able to TRULY fit in. I was a “drama freak” AND a cheerleader. I was a stoner AND in all honors classes. I was a recluse AND popular. I have never QUITE “fit.”
PLUS… when I was just making a name for MYSELF, isn’t the POINT to be remembered for being me? AND… what if I MADE it? What if I “fit in so good” that everyone LOVED me more than all the other stepfordpreneurs out there… and my brand TOOK OFF?
What if I “fit in so good” that everyone LOVED me more than all the other stepfordpreneurs out there… and my brand TOOK OFF?And this is where it all ended for me… the thoughts of fitting in. Because if I WON in costume, I’d have to keep up that charade. I’d have to keep being some dress up version of myself. I’d have to keep dotting i’s and crossing t’s and wondering how a proper leader dressed.
So, for me… all of this was a hell no. The world would have to love me as I am, or not love me at all. And I was fine either way.
Fast forward 10 years, 12 years.. however many. And now, the “idea” of being different is UBER popular. You know, the “I’m a BAD ASS, AUTHENTIC, FREE THINKING LEADER” act. You know you see it.
You know, the “I’m a BAD ASS, AUTHENTIC, FREE THINKING LEADER” act. You know you see it.The f-bombs on facebook.
The parade of whatever the 2020 version of black leather jackets and motorcycles. “REBEL!”
But look just underneath the costume and cuss words. They are still following the “internet marketing” rules so hard they can’t keep up. When the big names-du-jour drop their beat, these “rebels” dance on CUE, baby.
It’s not that I don’t believe they WANT to be different and authentic. It’s just that they are where I considered going. They THINK they can look, talk, act and dance the same NOW… and “earn their stripes” so they can ONE DAY BE THEMSELVES.
If this is what you are doing now, YOU ARE playing the role of an imposter, to whatever degree. And I get the rationale but it’s faulty, woman. You see, the world CRAVES true authenticity. THAT is what stands out. You cannot be a fem-preneur-bot today and hope to stand out, hope to cultivate an authentic (and profitable) following tomorrow. It NEVER works that way… and if it DID, you’d be in worse trouble.
It would be like ME pretending to be some pious housewife who couldn’t tolerate dust and had to look away when someone haphazardly folded a towel the wrong way. If THAT is what Chris was attracted to, how long could I fulfill that charade? A pair of seconds MAYBE.
It would never work.
Not in dating.
Not in life.
Not in friendship.
Not in business.
Not ANYWHERE.
So, be who you REALLY are now.
The market will REWARD you for it,
financially.
YOU are the brand,
YOU are the way,
YOU are the message.
HONOR what YOU bring to your market and do NOT dial it down.
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