I see a lot of posts about LOVE these days.
Dating.
SOULmate -seeking.
A concerted, hardcore effort to find “the ONE,”
All from people who have already found “the one” —
only to realize that he (or she) WASN’T “the one” after all.
And so they leave…
and soldier on…
ever more determined to find the “one” who will finally be the “real” one.
I think the inherently flawed thinking in all of this doesn’t lie in whether or not we TRULY have a soulmate “out there.” I actually believe we do. I have a soulmate friend who is closer than a sister to me. Our hearts are absolutely united… And, of course, I have my Mister… who I believe was BORN to be my husband, and I his wife.
I believe this.
Where this thinking becomes FLAWED, I think, is when we think that our soulmate.. our “ONE”… will show up — and FOREVER remain — the perfect fit.
Soulmate thinking becomes flawed when you think this “soulmate” will never — EVER — grow differently than you… or at a different pace…. or in a different direction. Soulmate thinking becomes flawed when you expect it to be rainbows and unicorns EVERY SINGLE DAY because you’re SOOOO SOUL-MATED….
When you never embrace the reality of — and also, do not be fooled:
the GROWTH and the DEPTH and the INTIMACY of —
a dry season…
a season in which it’s not super exciting…
a season in which it feels “blah,”
a season in which you may not FEEL the love, but your COMMITMENT to that soulmate of yours still runs deep….
You miss out on the FULLNESS of exactly what you are seeking, you miss out on something that can ONLY be forged in tough times…. you miss out on what this soulmate love of yours can BECOME.
But I’m not here to talk about romantic love.
Let’s talk about your BUSINESS love story.
I see so many business owners take a similar approach to business… when it feels good, when it feels in flow, when it feels exciting, when it feels EASY… they take it as a sign that THIS IS IT….
And then, that SAME business hits a dry spell… a time when it feels LESS good, feels less “in flow,” feels LESS exciting… you know, that time when it feels like WORK. lol… And they think it means “MAYBE THIS WASNT MEANT TO BE.”
Same (exact) business.
Different phase.
Now, I am NOT here to tell you to settle.
Not in love, certainly.
And not in business.
I am not AT ALL suggesting that you accept the HO HUM phase — in love or in business — and do NOTHING to jazz it up. I think that’d be foolish.
This is YOUR love story.
This is YOUR business.
It is up to YOU to make it shine… to make it strong… to make it all it can POSSIBLY be.
I would NEVER accept HO HUM, nor suggest you accept it.
But I AM suggesting that you not abandon what you once held so dear based on how you FEEL during a particular season.
I AM suggesting that you STOP taking your emotional temperature and thinking it actually MEANS something.
Our feelings are fickle…
and deceiving….
To reach the FULLNESS of your life,
in love,
in business…
in any area…
You’ll have to walk through some valleys, trod through some plateaus. But, take heart, friend.
This is how you go the distance.
This is how depth and intimacy are created…
NOT in the “honeymoon phase,” although that’s fun.
But in how you approach the tough times.
Coal turns into diamonds —
but not when the coal is soaking up the sun on a beach somewhere…
Only when the contents are under pressure.
Now, here’s my point:
REMOVE the emotion.
And do the work.
Your business visibly blossoms in the good times.
I LOVE seeing that.
But it grows ROOTS in the bad.
And THIS, my friend, is what really matters.
Big shout out to MY Soulmate clients and members…. I ADORE you. I stand humbled each and every day to work with you, to watch you struggle… and succeed…. search and also find. I ADMIRE your consistent and undeniable push, no matter how you “feel.” I APPLAUD your hustle, as much as I CELEBRATE when I see you totally in the flow. But, most of all, I just LOVE you.
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