(Hint: You only have to (truly) crack it ONCE.)
I saw a post yesterday asking how important confidence was for women entrepreneurs. A lot of people “phoned in” their two cents, but the most honest answer is:
Critical.
Integral.
Essential.
You see, WITHOUT rock solid confidence, you will be forever seeking outside validation, approval, affirmation.
If someone says NO, your world is rocked. If a post you poured your heart into doesn’t get any — or enough — likes, you start to doubt ALL of your message. If someone you know likes another post or shows up on someone else’s live stream, but not yours… you start to SQUIRM in the instant vulnerability and rejection you feel. Speaking of lives, how DO you get through the heartache and ego hit of no one showing up live?? lol…
Look. This can be crazy making.
AND — let’s be honest — it’s MORE than a bit juvenile… takin’ it back to the old school, you know… where a zit would keep you from enjoying the middle school dance?
In the grown up world,
the world of being a self-bosser,
the world where you are a LEADER of leaders,
the world where you are a MESSENGER,
an ARTIST,
a THOUGHT LEADER,
a doer,
a change maker,
a truth teller….
Woman, we can’t afford to get lost in this world of validation-seeking, affirmation-asking, approval-chasing desperation. We’ve got to settle ALL of this in our own souls.
Confidence is an INSIDE job.
The moment you look OUTSIDE of yourself to build your confidence muscle, my friend…
you’re dangerously off track.
Outside validations / affirmations / approval can TEMPORARILY boost your confidence… much the same way a bump of coke can TEMPORARILY increase your energy. But it always goes away.
It always leaves you dependent.
On more, more, more.
But INSIDE sources of confidence,
BUILD your confidence like a muscle.
When you TRULY crack the confidence code,
and I’ll tell you how in a minute…
but when you TRULY crack the confidence code,
confidence is YOURS
— most likely a DEFINING quality of yours,
since it is so rare —
forever.
When you are TRULY confident,
to and at your core,
no one can take it away from you.
It is yours forever.
The att-a-girls,
the love heart showers,
the attention
become “nice” or “cool” or “fun”
but not essential.
Side note: Want to get attention
AND KEEP IT?
Be the woman who is THIS LEVEL confident
to her very core.
So, cracking your confidence code.
What does that look like?
- First, DECIDE. Decide that your rock solid confidence is up to you and that it is ENTIRELY an inside job, therefore INDEPENDENT of anything else going on in your life.
- Next, DECLARE. Daily if you have to, but DECLARE and affirm that it is now NORMAL for you to be supremely confident in all things. Journal it out. I am confident because…..
- Finally, DERAIL ALL THOUGHTS OF “NOT ENOUGH.” This is a lie of the devil himself. You are absolutely enough. So, when thoughts of not being ready, not being enough or whatever else, TRAIN yourself to go back to declaring yourself supremely confident,.
Confidence is like ANY OTHER MUSCLE.
It must be built.
by you.
Message me about my 21 days IMMERSION into confidence and mental toughness. I want to take you with me.
