Right away, when you decide to go into business for yourself, you have DEFIED the “norm” of getting a J-O-B. Right out of the gate, you’ve gone counter-culture. You’ve had the AUDACITY to say,
“You know… I think I’ll bet on myself. There’s no reason for me to believe that a paycheck signed by someone else is more secure than the one I create myself.”
THEN, should you wish to create REAL and SUSTAINED success, you must defy the norms of your industry. (Otherwise you’ll blend in, and to make MONEY… you need to stand out, away from your competitors.)
Should you wish to create WILD success on your own terms, you’ll have to DEFY the currently popular victim-mentality, you’ll have to take FuLL responsibility for your life and results and THIS level of confidence and self-reliance… well, the “masses” will certainly not approve. lol… It will seem extreme and make you seem “too much” for people. (No sweat though.. because you’ll soon leave those people behind, playing in bigger and better arenas!)
So, defiance IS necessary,
But it is NOT acrimonious as most people assume.
STRATEGIC, deliberate defiance does not equal rebellion, fighting, arguing and creating angst for yourself.
Quite the OPPOSITE is true.
While I have always been considered DEFIANT,
NO ONE would have ever labeled me
“rebellious.”
I was stubborn.
I wasn’t in-your-face rebellious.
I didn’t ARGUE with those who felt they were in authority over me. Definitely, there were / ARE times when I’d REASON with “authority,” if given an opening, but never from a perspective of begging / fighting for permission.
And there’s a huge difference.
You see, when you think you need their PERMISSION,
to say that, do that, show up like that,
tensions and emotions run hot.
Because YOUR behavior, your next steps
hang in the balance.
THEY (whomever you’re arguing with) are given power
while YOU are begging for it.
As MY Mom would say,
“Not NO, but HELL no.” 😊
MY approach — then and now–
was to hear people out.
Many times, other people’s opinions, rules, laws, orders, etc..
were contrary to what I had (already) decided to do.
I was — and am — always okay with that.
I have never needed anyone to agree with me on all the things. So, I never fought to get them to “come to my side.” I am now and have always been okay standing alone, if I needed to.
In business, defiance is an internal, private decision. It’s a foregone conclusion. It’s a simple, peaceful commitment to live sovereign, to market authentically, to show up as if your message mATTERS, to price with integrity, to carve out YOUR OWN PATH instead of following the path of others.
It needs no explanation or argument.
“NO thanks.” is always a complete sentence.
Shortly, I’ll be delivering the last official training of our short 11-day DEFY series for Women Who WOW members and our guests. We’ll be detailing a practical guide for DEFYING any and all limitations in business.
This is ALWAYS an inside job.
Because the limitations we MOST need to defy
are always
of our own making.
Message me if you want a replay of this entire 11-day series.
