I always pay attention to the things that make me jealous, largely because jealousy just isn’t my natural “bent.” I’m genuinely happy for other people, so when I feel JEALOUS, as in “I wish that was me,” I pay VERY close attention.
I pay attention because there is ALWAYS a lesson in it for me.
Full disclosure: I wish my man was more into “Facebook PDA.” Not the gross awkward kind, but the kind where we take lots of pictures together, share them, etc. Him talking openly about what I mean to him… lol.
I mean, how hard can this be? WE SPEND OUR LIVES together after all. RARELY is he not by my side. But, the man HATES selfies. They irritate him. He also doesn’t love Facebook, and is hardly EVER on here. and when he is, like on my birthday, he’ll publish something that says something along the lines of “I love this woman. She’s a great person.” lol..
A GREAT person?!!
Seriously… our marriage is intimate and passionate. Dare I say, it’s freaking HOT. And he has NO problem expressing how he feels about me / towards me in person, in text, in the written word…
A great person??? Jeez. Just take that vanilla shit down already.
Anyway, so there’s this couple here on Facebook. ALWAYS posting pics. OH how he loves her, and she… him. They both share their unbridled passion for one another and — of course — share / sell advice on how to STAY in a hot marriage.
Granted, they have only been married a couple of years… but I’ve been watching, thinking — and even discussing with Chris — about how i want more of THAT. I mean SOME of that, even just a little bit.
His response, “Michelle, none of that shit’s real.”
in THIS case, he was right.
Not three years into their hot marriage,
they are calling it quits.
Will they still dole out marriage advice for a fee? It appears so, but now re-labeled as “relationship advice,” and of course, they’ll be doing it separately.
ANYWHO, the lessons.
1) Be COGNIZANT of what you covet. If you remain aware, it will often reveal such GRATITUDE for what you actually already have, and a roadmap for where you’re headed!
2) Be WARY of judging anyone or anything by a carefully curated thumbnail sketch of real life. REAL life is a different thing altogether.
But mainly this:
3) EVEN WHEN YOU WANT WHAT THEY HAVE, or seem to have, STAY genuinely happy for them having it. I have never resented someone their good fortune, even as I struggled in that area. Never. ANYONE who has what I want, or SEEMS to have what I want is a message to me, a living example, that it is possible.
And that’s all I EVER need.
to know it’s possible. From there, it’s up to me.
Now, as for whether or not Chris will EVER show the metaverse what I see everyday, what I live and love every day, will he begin “complying” and taking more us-ies i can share, I sort of doubt it… but, who knows?
And in the end, who cares? I was raised to look ONLY at “what IS,” not what something “looks like” or “seems like.” And in this case, I’ll take WHAT IS all day, every day. If you look at other women succeeding in business, but you feel like you’re spinning your wheels, I have something for you.
BUT it will require you to lay some things down. It will require that you do business differently. It will require you to stop playing the game of “views” and “algorithms,” and start playing in the world of cash and conversations, income and influence. Real stuff. If you’re ready, message me. I can help.
