There is a post going around, a well-meaning post where well-intentioned, strong & SMART women are sharing a picture OF THEMSELVES with the headline, “I’ve H A T E D this woman.”Can you imagine it? Sharing a PICTURE of yourself with a headline about how you’ve hated yourself and NOT LOVED yourself for most of your life.
Granted, the post goes on to share how you’ve FINALLY gained a love for who you are, which is great I guess. BUT why is it “a thing” for women to go through a period of HATING themselves in order to love themselves? Why do so many feel the need to share this post?
Call me what you will,
but I’ve never hated myself.
I have made LOATHSOME choices, deliberately. I have made careless mistakes that cost me, big time. I have risked my life and my freedom. I have bet on myself and then not even showed up to take a swing. I have resisted truths that later slapped me in the face. I have been up close and personal with my own depravity, what is POSSIBLE for me in all the worst of ways. I have endured much and — at times — had to fight alone when I wondered where / when the calvary would show up… only to find that my fight wasn’t even a blip on their radar. I have learned my “place” and my “identity” in ways that shocked and devastated me. I have loved and grieved and fought. I have been hurt and rejected and abandoned and betrayed. And I have also rejected and betrayed and abandoned. I have listened in when those that were supposed to be my biggest champions spoke of me in ways that burnt my entire identity to the ground,and I have built again from those ashes.
But I have NEVER hated myself.
I can’t imagine the sentiment really…
and
I REJECT the notion that so many women must go through a period of hating themselves on a journey to fully accept who they are.
I mean, where ELSE does this HATE turned acceptance turned appreciation turned love scenario play out??? Not in familial relationships, not in romantic relationships, not usually in friendships.
Now, to be sure….
I have been MAD at myself, many times.
But hate? No. Not ever.
I have been ASHAMED of my decisions and FEARFUL of the consequences.
Too many times to count.
But hate? Most certainly not.
Look, I have two daughters,
and perhaps you have one or more yourself,
so I have a MORAL OBLIGATION to call out the IDEA that so many strong women BEGAN with an ANIMOSITY towards their actual being.
No, sister…
You were FEARFULLY and WONDERFULLY made.
You are EXACTLY where you are meant to be.
And YOUR future is SQUARELY in your hands.
So, be mad at yourself if you must.
Kick your own ass.
Often and hard.
But HATING oneself is simply NOT a normal condition. Don’t accept that. You were born for GREATness.
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