Anyone who knows me, knows I take my vows seriously. Almost 20 years ago, I made a vow to my Mister. Even in the darkest of seasons, our vows stood the test of time.
Because it wasn’t just the words we said, the church we said them in, or the kids that later populated our home and lives. It was the energetic agreement… the heart-to-heart, soul-to-soul commitment that proved tougher than the times.
These — nearly unconscious — energetic vows we make ARE damn near impossible to break. The more unconscious, the harder to break. If you are seeing repetitive (but negative) patterns in your life… with relationships, with money, with health, or with business… I GUARANTEE there’s a hidden — and ruthlessly strong — vow just DARING you to try to break it.
It’s funny the vows we make unconsciously.
The vow to suffer.
The vow of poverty.
The vow of the martyr.
The vow of the pauper.
The vow of the loner.
The vow of the victim.
The vow of the committed.
The vow of the struggling.
The vow to never shine, and therefore make others feel bad about themselves somehow.
The vow of the hero. (similar to the martyr, but different.)
The vow of the hard fought battle.
The vow of the wounded.
The vow of the superior. (I’m so special that’s why i’m alone, broke, different.)
The vow of perfection. (And therefore, NEVER entering the game.)
The vow of proving oneself.
These vows,
the ones that keep you seeing the SAME thing,
on REPEAT,
are the vows to break.
In business, all of us are making energetic vows with the market. It’s possible you’ve made an agreement of some sort already.
💥 Dear market, I’ll dance the right dance if you only give me JUST ENOUGH to scrape by.
💥 Dearest client, I’ll keep childizing you as long as there’s a HOPE of payment at the end.
💥 Dear business, I’ll give you EVERYTHING, I’ll be your martyr and ask for nothing in return… if you will only allow me to keep up this facade of success.
I’d made some unconscious vows of my own.
💥 I’d AGREED to work hard and long, to forego sleep to PROVE MY WORTHINESS for wealth. 💥 I’d AGREED to only require my business to help me “make ends meet.” 💥 I’d PROMISED to never demand payment for anything that didn’t cost me my blood,sweat and tears. (You know, anything that came easy.) 💥 But mainly, I’d made a solemn vow not to have “over-sized” dreams… and to play it safe (and small.).. in an effort to NEVER lose sight of where I came from, and — of course — where I “belonged.”
And I am a VOW-keeping fool.
In order to shift these things, I had to RE-WIRE my thinking. I had to shatter some patterns and habits.
I had to THINK different
in order to
DO different and eventually…
deliberately…
in order to
become different….
To become the kind of woman
for which my goals were normal, natural, expected.
Don’t misunderstand what you’re reading. I liked who I was. BUT, there were some repetitive patterns in my life that I was no longer willing to keep nursing… hand feeding and keeping alive.
Whenever you are seeing patterns
that are repetitive AND not serving you in your life or business,
there is a VOW you need to uncover.
A vow you made long ago,
perhaps unconsciously.
And that vow needs to be identified and defied.
Divorced. Forever separated from your being.
So, what negative patterns are you seeing?
and what VOW would you say is underneath it?
Once you identify it, here is how you break it.
It’s simple, but must be done consistently.
The vow can be broken the way it was created… with “I am the kind of woman who ____________” statements.
It was made by repetitive thoughts that you are the kind of woman WHO>>>>>
Example: I’m the kind of woman who never gets ahead. I’m the kind of woman who doesn’t care about financial success. I’m the kind of woman who is always alone. I’m the kind of woman who isn’t afraid of the struggle. I’m the kind of woman who no one understands. I’m the kind of woman who isn’t easy to love. I’m the kind of woman who…
do you see it?
The pattern? The VOW?
Now, turn it around…
Deliberately choose.
I’m the kind of woman WHO __________________.
I’m the kind of woman who creates generational abundance. I’m the kind of woman who is proud of her financial success. I’m the kind of woman who enjoys ease and flow. I’m the kind of woman who has deep friendships with diverse people. I’m the kind of woman who gets to be understood. I’m the kind of woman who is fun to love. I’m the kind of woman who…
Now, over to you my friend.
What vow will you break?
What kind of woman will you be?
