(I couldn’t think of a better title for this, but it’s worth your read. Promise.)
DO NOT QUIT. If you’re in a hurry, just read this next line — over and over again — until what you MUST do, what you MUST push through, what you MUST overcome, what you MUST leave behind… all of it.. becomes #DUH obvious.
💥💥The ONLY way to YOUR promised land,
having the BEST in every area
(business, body, lifestyle, relationships)
is THROUGH all the STUFF
that has kept you stuck, small and stalled so far.💥💥
The other day I was talking with a woman who has a special skill set. She can’t legally say what it is so I will. She literally helps people beat cancer.
She literally comes in and detoxes their home and diet. She helps them find resources to secure all the supplements they need. She puts them in touch with the right doctors. She shares recipes, tips, protocols and more. She supports the family members who are having to do most of this work.
I am not even kidding.
Proven track record. Certified in multiple things.
AND, she is a prolific content creator.
HOWEVER, she is working retail.
Because this business thing keeps “not working out.”
it’s OUTRAGEOUS that she’s not making — MINIMUM and IMMEDIATELY, OUT OF THE GATE— 5 figures a month. MINIMUM. Truly, an outrage.
👉 Side note: Do you ever feel it’s OUTRAGEOUS that you’re not making more money? Like, it shouldn’t even be POSSIBLE for you to continue to struggle the way you are struggling in your business? Good. Keep reading.
So I asked her recently to IDENTIFY her quitting point, the point at which she walks away from her calling… not trusting it to support her financially.
And I need to be asking a LOT more women to do the same. Because while THIS woman actually quits and takes a job, so many others quit to MANY other varying degrees.
And I have done the same.
Today I want to discuss WHAT quitting looks like, as well as what my quitting points WERE, what they are now, and how to ADJUST your own.
Because the ONLY way to get what you REALLY want,
is to go through the muck and the mire that
led you to quit,
to fall back,
to retreat… so far.
(Don’t be discouraged.
The journey ain’t so bad.)
So, quitting.
I’ve been a full time entrepreneur since day one. I’ve never quit and gotten a job.
But that does NOT mean I haven’t quit in a million other ways.
Here’s what quitting can look like,
what it HAS looked like,
for me.
❌ Failing to bring an idea to life,
usually under the guise of waiting for better timing.
❌ Canceling commitments, you know… to have better “balance;” (B.S.)
❌ Pulling back on my drive…. reigning it in (pretending it was about being wise or principled or whatever.)
❌ Saying no to opportunities
❌ Being unwilling to get MeSSY in my kitchen. (More on this later, but it is KEY…THE key to wild success… and I never realized it. I thought my success kitchen WAS messy because I am messy. BUT, it was FAR too tidy, FAR too linear, FAR too one-step-at-a-time. The MOMENT I embraced massive actions, multiple initiatives being done SIMULTANEOUSLY… everything changed. And the best part: business isn’t JUST more profitable it is more fun and actually more manageable, less overwhelming.. and TREMENDOUSLy less stressful. Remind me to come back to this on another day.)
Anyway, I see women pulling back
all the time.
Quitting.
Sometimes mid-race,
but other times…
before they even get started.
I RECOGNIZE it,
that AGONIZING balance of KNOWING
what you are MADE of
and YET…
still not
going
all in.
I recognize it,
and I have been WAY to easy on it.
i’ve been too gentle with my people.
The way I was too gentle with myself.
I watch as they energetically hold themselves back,
like they have a bit in their mouths,
like a horse straining for the track but being held back by a cruel jockey…
letting them WATCH the action,
but never letting them see how fast they can run.
Woman I was so sick of watching the action…
and sometimes being a small part of it.
I was sick of myself…
disgusted with myself for not being ALL of me,
for not BRINGING all of me
to task…
And I still have these moments.
The moments where all of the sudden it occurs to me that I’m back on the sidelines… watching, cheering, being excited for those on the track running their hearts out,
breathless,
kicking up dirt and
leaving ALL they have behind
as they lunge forward towards a goal that they KNOW they can reach.
A new and better and elite track perhaps…
but same tendency to hold back.
To quit on the dreams that God PLACED inside of me before the beginning of time, to play coy on the race He designed for ME to run.
If this is resonating with you, I want to call you out. I want you to know that YES I’m talking to you and YES there’s more for you and YES you’re still paying small and YES there’s some QUIT in you.
And YES…
there’s something you can do about it.
Today.
You can identify YOUR quitting point.
What has you running for the sidelines of life and business?
For me, I’d pull back,
gracefully exiting stage left,
walking with all the dignity I could muster
back to the safety of the sidelines…
whenever
- I had mom woes or overwhelm, reassuring myself that i was being a good MOM by shrinking back.
- I had wife woes or heartache, convincing myself that it was the RIGHT and NOBLE thing to do. (A wife of noble character, who can find?)
- I had financial challenges, or
- I had health challenges.
EACH of these were my quitting points. Now, I wouldn’t exactly quit… but as sure as the sun would rise, I would pull back and retreat.
And the sun is RATHER predictable, wouldn’t you say?
You know what else is predictable?
Your quitting point,
that zone
those circumstances
that have you retreating..
and
protecting
your status quo.
It will KEEP showing up
until you DEFY
(REBELLIOUSLY
and with a DETERMINATION that may even shock you)
its power over you.
💥💥The ONLY way to YOUR promised land,
having the BEST in every area
(business, body, lifestyle, relationships)
is THROUGH all the STUFF
that has kept you stuck, small and stalled so far.💥💥
The only way to DEFY it is to keep going.
To NOT quit.
EVERY single success story
in every industry
in every generation,
in every nation has this in common.
EVENTUALLY they defied their quit zone,
and kept going.
Here’s to us.
The crazy ones.
The driven ones.
The wild women.
The women with “outsized” goals.
The change makers.
Here’s to us,
NOT quitting,
not even a little bit,
no matter what.
Here’s to us,
INCREASING our resolve
when these oh-so-familiar quit zones
show up.
And here’s to us
NEVER having to do it alone.
Join us. The ONLY tribe of women like you.
Message me if you have any questions.
