WHAT I HATE, HATE, HATE ABOUT MOVIES LIKE “THE FOUNDER” ABOUT RAY KROC, OR “STEVE JOBS” ABOUT STEVE JOBS OR “THE SOCIAL NETWORK” ABOUT MARK ZUCKERBERG…. POINTS ME BACK TO MY CORE PURPOSE IN THIS #BUSINESS
So, this morning, I watched “The Founder” about Ray Kroc. And, of course, I’ve also watched a ton of other movies about other founders with household name success.
I’ve been heartsick with nearly every single one.
First, the movies further demonize the achievers, the risk takers, the top 1% of earners in America, the JOB CREATORS, the product creators, the INDUSTRY makers. I hate this.
Achievement, accomplishment (and VALUE EXCHANGE, i.e. profit) should never (ever) be demonized. No matter our age, no matter our sex, no matter our means… we should always seek to create, to add — and exchange — value. IMHO
But, what I hate SO MUCH MORE is the “material” these founders give these movie makers. Zuckerberg abandoning the friends who stood by him in the early days. Jobs potentially abandoning a kid.
And Kroc, leaving the wife who stood by him for all of those early years, trading her in for someone else’s (a franchisee’s) wife. And putting the TRUE founders of the ORIGINAL McDonald’s store out of business in San Bernardino.
uggg.
Clearly NONE of us know ALL of the details of ANY of these situations. We’re watching the Hollywood version of SOMEONE’s story and we don’t know how many perspectives were actually consulted — or included — in the making of these movies.
But, the PORTRAYAL is that these founders were assholes who had a loyalty ONLY to themselves and their own self interest.
The PORTRAYAL is that success changes people.
Or that wild, household name success REQUIRES you to abandon the loyalty, the heart-centered focus, the LOVE you have for people, even your own family.
The PORTRAYAL is that of having to choose.
Between human decency, loyalty, love and commitment…
and WILD success.
I’m typing this from a Panera bread and literally have tears in my eyes.
This “be careful little girl… that success is gonna cost you” IS WHAT HELD ME BACK FOR WAY, WAY, WAY TOO LONG. Seeing it “on the big screen” — and knowing so many others are also watching too — GRIEVES me. To my core.
I’ve LONG said that if I ever had to choose between TIME & $$$$, I’d choose TIME 100 out of 100 times.
What went without saying — ALWAYS — was my belief that I DID have to choose between time and money. THAT HUGE TRUTH was what I never said. I rarely confided my fear that HUGE success (way beyond what I’ve already created) would make me into a part-time mom or less committed wife.
I just chose….
I chose what was most important to me:
My Faith, My Mister, My Kids, My Business.
In that order.
I chose because — by choosing — I thought I was protecting myself from something AWFUL… like becoming an ASSHOLE of a person.
I chose — willingly, honorably, proudly —
BUT THE HEARTBREAKING REALITY IS THAT I CHOSE WHEN I NEVER HAD TO CHOOSE AT ALL.
Hence the reason for the tears in my eyes… Looking like a FOOL here in the corner booth.
I never EVER had to choose.
EACH of these men chose their dreams… they chose their priorities, and they lived according to them.
AS IT TURNS OUT, I THINK THEIR PRIORITIES SUCK.
That’s my prerogative. They would probably think my priorities suck too.
Faith.
Family.
Business.
And Loyalty? To my God, To my man, to my family… and to my clients and members?
Well, it DEFINES me. It is a core value.
HOW CRAZY is it that i’ve — for so long — been held back by this unspoken (AND AS IT TURNS OUT, COMPLETELY UNNECESSARY) need to choose?
I’m heartsick over it.
I’ve wasted too much time.
BUT, this movie re-affirmed something in me… my purpose.
I am HERE, I am RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW to be an example, a guide, a mentor…. for women who are both seriously driven and seriously committed to living in total integrity and total alignment with THEIR core values. Women who refuse to choose. Women who are loyal, heart-centered, faithful, devoted and ALSO driven beyond what most people think is “necessary.” =)
Because the truth is… this is how TRUE success is created anyway. If you feel this way… or if you are one of these women, join us in WomenWhoWOW.com.
#rantover
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#successonmyterms
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