Spinning poop into gold feels like today’s challenge for me personally. An awful morning (teenager stuff)… which led to an argument with Chris…. followed by two hours trying to register Shelbey for her college classes (which never went through)… followed by internet outages (which may or may not have caused the problems with registering for classes)…. followed by….
Anyway,
a TRULY
POOPY day so far.
And, like everyone, I HATE days like this.
I’m grumpy.
Off course.
Snappy.
I want the entire world to go away.
BUT this week is full on.
It’s graduation week for Shelbey.
I have college deadlines.
Deadlines with my printer.
Deadlines for my new book.
Personal obligations coming OUT the wazzoo.
4 — FOUR — live events coming up.
And next week is looking EERILY similar…
And the week after that.
And the week after that.
Basically JUNE is jammed packed with personal and professional things I HAVE to do,
and I know
— via the MICROCOSM and WARNING of today —
that if I’m not careful,
I’ll do all that I HAVE to do,
and I’ll lose the JOY of what I WANT to do.
And I did business like that for too long.
Frankly, it’s the SLOW way of creating success.
Doing all you SHOULD do,
and losing the JOY and the ENERGY of doing the things that FUEL you.
Like having bland, dry, boring sex…
and expecting some hot passionate romance to blossom.
It doesn’t work that way.
You MUST bring the passion to your work.
You MUST protect your passion,
you MUST make time for it…
Otherwise your work,
your messaging,
your videos,
your content,
your offers,
your sales conversations,
your VERY essence and brand
will become dry, bland and boring.
So, here’s what I do.
To turn a POOP day into a GOLD day.
(I’ve been here before and know that I’ll be here again.)
⭐️ OPTIMIZE THE ENVIRONMENT
I thrive in solitude, so first… I hide. Today I will have to leave my house to do so. I have referred all kids to their dad. (Mom’s phone will be off.) i MUST create an environment which energizes rather than drains me. For me, this is solitude.
For women like me,
and maybe you..
you may be the center of many things.
So in these moments,
on these crappy days…
you may feel the world closing in on you….
every phone call someone else complaining,
unloading,
every “Mom” followed by a request,
every text is a request,
every single incoming ANYTHING
is just more crap.
So, I have cancelled my entire day.
Phone will go on do not disturb.
Because on these days,
let’s face facts,
no one is calling “just because.”
And I’m — frankly — not fit for human interaction. It is what it is.
So, I shake off all of my dependents
— legal and otherwise —
off my leg and run for the solitude of the hills. =)
The message: MOM / WIFE / FRIEND / COACH
IS NO LONGER AVAILABLE. =)
If you thrive in social settings, though… maybe you need to get out and go to a coffee shop or co-working space or something. The point is in deliberately creating / going to a physical environment or space in which you are UPLIFTED.
⭐️ SHIFT THE ENERGY
I have a ton of frustration built up right now. A TON. I MUST shift it physically… so I’m going to the gym. I will sweat it out… listen to music that pounds in my brain and run until I can’t run any more.
For you, maybe it’s a walk,
or yoga
or dancing or whatever.
⭐️ LIST OPPORTUNITIES
For me, this is now about resetting with gratitude. I list opportunities that are on the horizon for me. Things and people I’m grateful for, opportunities I’m grateful for, projects I’m loving.
I am sometimes tempted to skip this step…
you know,
because the entire day already feels “wasted”
and there’s “no time” for such luxuries as a gratitude journaling sesh…
But I know better.
This is what REALLY resets the tone for my day.
So I do NOT skip it. EVER.
⭐️ FINALLY, I MAKE A TO DO LIST.
A list of what I will create before I close out the day.
A list of non-negotiables that I can now
in the right environment, in the right frame of mind, with the right energy TACKLE with my normal passion for my work.
In short, my day will be different.
I will not be home to have coffee with Chris when he gets here.
I will not be eating dinner with anyone.
I will miss my normal Wednesday work out.
And I will leave the house I love in favor of the solitude I NEED.
But I will NOT close the day in frustration and failure.
I will STILL do what I came to do.
Not because I HAVE to,
but because I GET to,
because I CAN,
because THAT is who I am….
And that…
feels amazing.
