THE BLUEPRINT FOR ABSOLUTE IMMUNITY TO CRITICISM

+ a bonus prompt to help you ALWAYS know what to do NeXT. 😊

**Quick note: This is an excerpt (Day 7) from my 30 Day immersion into Mental Toughness, a program delivered back in 2017 I believe. I am NOW offering this $247 program for free, as a bonus to another program, SOUL CERTAINTY.

Read about that program here: https://www.bmichellepippin.com/soul-certainty/ OR Message me for details, but either way, please read this post. This WILLINGNESS to stand alone, this COURAGE to make your own decisions has never been more critical in 2021.

Here we go: IMMUNITY TO CRITICISM

As a young kid, my Mom would challenge me whenever I’d used the nebulous term, “they.”
“Who’s they?” she would ask.
“Who says?” is another way she would challenge “general assumptions.”

I’d never really considered that before my Mom started asking.
Who ARE they, anyhow?
Who made THEM “theys.”
And why would THEIR opinion be THE opinion that’s accepted?

AS A KID, I quickly settled the issue, deep in my heart, way deep in my bones.

I don’t care what THEY think, what THEY say.
More specifically, I don’t care what they think or say about ME.

In fact, here is one of my go-to phrases for when my husband or my kids think I’m being “CRAZY” or “TOO protective” or “TOO this or that,” for those moments when they remind me that “NO ONE else” does this / thinks this / whatever:

“Yeah, I don’t take a public poll before I decide how I’m going to feel about something.”

In other words, I’m okay standing alone.

But, as an adult, I see an AWFUL lot of questioning, second-guessing, backpedaling, worrying and soul-crushing “settling…” all at the altar of the opinions of others. For the record, I do not worship at this altar. 😊 I often joke that I wasn’t born with the gene that cares what other people think, but — in truth — this layer of mental toughness has been built deliberately.

Here’s what being IMMUNE TO CRITICISM provides:
🔥 Simplicity in decision making.
🔥 Unshakable confidence.
🔥 A certain air of MYSTERY around you. People WILL wonder why you don’t aim to please them or earn their approval.
🔥A MUCH more direct path to success.

** And in 2021… a GOOD bit of rejection, anger and outright OUTRAGE at your non-compliance. lol…

BUT, to be clear, IMMUNITY TO CRITICISM does NOT mean that you’re not open to feedback. That’d be just plain foolish.

Just recently, I heard from some Women Who WOW members who were overwhelmed with all of the content included in membership. I CERTAINLY didn’t ignore it in the name of “immunity to criticism.” I embraced it, and immediately sent out a WOWweekly, and will continue to do so each and every week, to address this sense of overwhelm.

So, the 3-step blueprint to IMMUNITY to CRITICISM is as follows:

1. FIRST, take an inventory of whose opinion you’re currently considering when making decisions. In other words, put a face to your personal list of “theys.”

Do you consider the opinions of your former friends, your competitors, your colleagues? Do you think twice about whether that bully on Facebook will call you out? How about the opinion of family members? Write a list of everyone whose opinion YOU consider (or fear) when it comes to making decisions for your business or life.

2. NOW, SHORTEN THAT LIST to include ONLY those who’s opinion (truly) matters.

For me, i have a very short list, which includes:
My God,
my husband,
my kids,
my parents,
my clients and
my WOW members.

3. MOST IMPORTANT PART: DECIDE HOW FAR THAT OPINION WILL GO.

Listen, I have three teenagers at home. They have LOTS of opinions about me. I’m over-protective, a bad cook, too nosey, ask too many questions of their friends, embarrassing on social media, among other things. Does their opinion matter? Sure. But, HOW FAR WILL I ALLOW THAT OPINION TO GO? Well that’s up to me.

Does their opinion matter? Sure.
Will I curtail my question asking of their friends? Fine.
Will I allow my youngest to go to the Lil Uzi concert without an adult? Probably not.
Will I allow their negative opinions of me to go to my CORE? To where I feel like a bad parent or bad person? ABSO-FREAKING-LUTELY NOT.

I think this is really what immunity to criticism is all about. HOW DEEP DO THE ARROWS OF THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS PENETRATE YOUR SOUL?

GOOD NEWS: You have an iron-like shield over your heart, friend. It’s already there. You were born with it, as we ALL were. The opinions of OTHERS cannot EVER penetrate to your core… into your soul…. not on their own. The only way the opinions of others can AFFECT OUR CORE is if we help them along…. nursing those thoughts…. giving them credence when they have none… pondering them…. mulling them over.

So, what is one to do… To be SURE we don’t help the opinions of others go DEEPER into our core than they should? Try my 3-question response to ANY opinion about me:

1) does their opinion matter? (i.e. are they on the short list?)
2) is it relevant?
3) Does it require action?

If action is required, I take it.
If not, I release that opinion… as “they” are so entitled to it… I release it back to them with a blessing.
And then, I keep on moving on… along my own path.

Please let me know how i can help you with this…. and before I go… here’s a GREAT journal prompt, perfect for a Sunday:

What would I do / plan for next week, if I were FULLY and COMPLETELY doing business “on purpose?” What would I plan for next week if I NEW that the detailed vision I created back on DAY ONE of this program were DONE?