Or maybe a rant.
This could just be a rant.
Because this one post will really summarize a lot about my own success, what I teach, what WOW membership ACTUALLY delivers, and will serve as a spotlight on what you need to “do” next, there will be plenty of “further reading” suggestions.
Let me get right to the point.
The reason you’re not “there” yet is NOT because you’ve dreamed too big. It is NOT because your goals are too “unreasonable.” (Further reading on the danger of “reasonable” goals can be found here: https://www.bmichellepippin.com/realistic-expectations-wom…/ )
It’s NOT EVEN that you want to 10x your income or weight loss or whatever without putting in 10x the work. (I mean, you don’t actually think that Oprah does 100 TIMES the work that you do, do you???) Further reading: https://www.bmichellepippin.com/im-challenge-beliefs-succe…/
Here’s what it IS.
Here’s the REAL problem.
(And, stay with me, because it’s also the simplest but most challenging solution.)
The REAL problem with UNREASONABLE (exponential) goals is that you expect to reach them without exponentially changing yourself.
Oh yes, woman.
Forget “What got you here won’t get you there.”
The NEW book should be titled,
“WHO got you here, won’t get you there.”
Do you think God planted that big dream in your heart so that you could remain fundamentally UNchanged? Do you think He gave you that “oversized” dream so you could do something for HIM???
Don’t be deceived.
This dream,
that goal,
the most outrageous one,
is here for YOU…
It is here to GROW you.
It feels OVERSIZED and HUGE,
only because you need to grow exponentially to complete it.
Do you think it’s been so DIFFICULT and FRUSTRATING because you just need to DO more?
No.
The very first business book I ever read, written by my (now) Facebook friend, Barbara Winter said that “Self-employment is a crash course in self-development.” I may be paraphrasing slightly. It is a quote I didn’t immediately understand but have come to FULLY understand, embrace….
And employ.
As a business strategy.
You see when I want to change something…
when I want to up-level something in my life…
when I want a NEW (better) NORMAL,
I know that I have to do three things:
1) DECIDE what I want exactly.
2) DECIDE which habitual actions naturally and logically produce THAT result.
3) DECIDE to become the woman for whom THOSE actions are normal, customary, enjoyable.
Read it again, because this is the “secret” that the movie, The Secret, left out.
YES, envision what you want.
But you’ve got to become the PERSON
who DOES THE THINGS
that naturally, logically create what you want.
Look at the people in your life for whom — let’s just say — a slim body is normal. I hate to break it to you (OR TO ME) but it is not about them being small-boned. 
lol…
LOOK at their habitual actions and decisions, and you will SEE the differences in what they DO (compared to you.) BUT… that isn’t the most important part.
The most important part is the fact that these things they do appear effortless… .
because
these actions
are TIED
to their IDENTITY.
Moving every day is simply part of who they are.
Eating unprocessed foods is just what they do…
Eating for fuel is a decision long ago embraced…
NOW, it is just NATURAL
for them to do the things…
that get the results
you want.
So if you want to make success “easy”
you SIMPLY must
change who you are…
You must up-level YOUR identity,
so that your new habits don’t take oodles of “will power,”
and instead, become
extensions of your identity.
Because those actions that are part of your identity (whether this is smoking, spending, cheating, lying, serving, exercising, selling, whatever)
are AWFULLY locked in, wouldn’t you say?
Now, who would you have to BECOME to reach that next level goal of yours? What habits would you have to make an EXTENSION of your identity? What actions would you have to make NORMAL and CUSTOMARY for you?
Because…
this is the REAL “secret.”
Your goals were planted in your heart…
to CHALLENGE you,
to CHANGE you,
to bring MORE of you to the table.
Journal Prompt: I am the kind of woman who __________________________.
