I’m a people watcher. And not in a passive, watch-people-walk-in-the-mall sort of way.
I’m a DILIGENT STUDENT of humanity. Because I am so passionate about my own marriage, I watch how other women — like me, because we ARE a different “breed” of woman with VERY different needs — sustain passionate romantic relationships.
And… I see a lot of UBER successful, wildly driven women entrepreneurs seeking their next man. They’re beautiful, sexy, accomplished and have amazing hearts. They’re authentic and smart.
They’re also — like me — the “other things” that driven women ARE. They are
💥 ruthless
💥 demanding of loyalty, attention, affection
💥 intolerant of excuses
💥 always growing and changing and evolving
💥 always up to something,
💥 confident and self-assured,
💥 in her own head, A LOT. Dreaming, Scheming, Plotting and Planning is her art… but also, her heart. So, take note.
AND, because of all of this and more, they need:
💥 sex. Not just sex, but a sexual OUTLET. (If you’re not sure what the difference is, you need not apply to date one of these wildly driven women…)
💥 freedom… To be, do, pursue all the things;
💥 freedom… To come and go as she pleases, with your whole hearted blessing;
💥 freedom… to be ALL the parts of who she is.
💥 GOBS of alone time to go within her own soul… to nurture the wild woman inside;
💥 your attention, especially when she shares her heart, her art, her ideas;
💥 your belief in HER… who she is, what she’s becoming, and what she’s creating;
💥 your partnership in all the life stuff;
💥 your open mind, about what a woman is, should be and could be. (Cut her some slack, she will NeVER be like other women.)
💥 Your constant “allowing” and embracing and cherishing of all things “her.”
She is a one woman show.
She has infuriatingly ingrained habits and routines, that she’ll expect you to respect and make room for. She’ll vacillate between needing space to go and just sit and journal and think and dream… and wanting you to be as close as is physically possible.
She has desires that are all over the place,
some that may shock you.
BUT, you will never have to guess what she wants.
She’ll tell you,
but you have to listen.
She doesn’t “just say stuff.”
She meant it.
Love for her is…
❤️ being cherished.
❤️ Being heard, seen and appreciated in all her forms,
especially when she is not understood… which — fair warning — will be a lot.
❤️ Being fully accepted, AS IS.
❤️ Being pursued as a woman. Sexually, mainly… but also in other ways. Keep in mind, we drive EVERY train in our lives. We make all the decisions. We push and motivate others. Many of our roles (and some personality aspects) are “quintessentially Male.”
BUT WE LOVE BEING A WOMAN.
AND WE WANT A MAN THAT REMINDS US
…OFTEN…
OF WHY WE LOVE BEING A WOMAN.
I found my man early, for which I am so grateful. He gives and does and allows and IS all of these things and more. But, this was a God thing, truly. I didn’t know I would need all of this when I met Chris. My Mom prayed for my future husband my entire life. I believe that is how I ended up with my perfect match.
The wild women like me,
the wildly driven women entrepreneurs who are in a happy, passionate and completely fulfilled relationships
are ALL married to similar men.
These men are extraordinary.
Sexy and sexually confident.
Strong — physically and also in EVERY way — with a VERY Strong sense of self.
They have NOTHING to prove to the world about their manhood, so if OFTEN looks as if they’re not as ambitious as their wives.
Perhaps not,
but their ambition shows up in ALL the right ways. =)
They are OUTRAGEOUSLY self assured,
which is why their wives have the freedom they have,
which is the ONLY way this works.
They are available to us.
While OUR passions are in the pursuit of ALL the things…
THEIR passion is for us.
For a LONG time,
I harbored untold amounts of shame
regarding who I was
as a woman,
and what I needed
as a wife.
I felt that I took center stage
while my Mister was left out.
It took me WAY TOO LONG
to realize that he WAS the stage.
My support,
my foundation,
my home,
my grounding place,
my safe place,
the place I go to shed EVERYTHING except the divinely feminine….
and that HIS role
was as INTEGRAL
to my success
and to the success of our family as a whole,
as my own.
So…. here’s why these men seem SO HARD TO FIND.
Most driven women are looking for men whose drive and entrepreneurial ambitions match their own. Had I been older and known myself better before I got married, I would have looked for the same. Big mistake. We need ROOM to be who we are. We need ROOM for us,
our dreams,
our travel,
our ideas,
our pursuits.
While there are exceptions to EVERY rule, by and large the wild woman — BORN a wild woman — needs a man who was CREATED to be our complement,
not our mirror image.
Here’s to all of us,
finding
and then deeply appreciating
these men in our lives.
